Expansion through contrast.

May 26th, 2015 | 2 comments

Expansion through contrast

Written by Tribe Leader, Kim Parker

You know that feeling of being stuck?

Stuck in a particular area of your life and you don’t know how to become unstuck. You know that feeling of frustration that builds up inside of you, as you repetitively hit your head on the same “barrier” above; acutely aware that transformation needs to take place within you in some shape or form.

Well, along my journey I have learned that where there is contrast there is growth. I have learned that variety and contrast sharpen our focus and help us come to a point of clarity. In every challenge there is a lesson and we are meant to live a life of expansion, even though it is not always easy.

So having recently experienced some expanding of my own, I would like to share a life changing lesson that I have learned.

In the midst of all my frustration I found myself asking the universe far too many times than I care to remember, “What is the lesson I should be learning?” Take my word for it ….there is always a lesson.

The lesson I learned is this ….

When you are experiencing contrast and standing waist deep in resistance, no matter how hard you try to change the way you feel in that space, you can’t. Well at least not significantly.

Meaningful change takes place when you are living in alignment with who you really are. When you are connected to your source … your inner bliss. Meaningful change takes place when you are joyful and full of love …. when you are in alignment.

Alignment dissolves resistance and enables transformation.

When this became clear I rolled up my sleeves and set to work on aligning myself with who I really am, with what really made me happy. I didn’t focus on anything else.

I cleared my diary and prepared to slow down. More sleep and deeper meditations were the order of the day. I surrounded myself with people I love and cherish and deepened the connection. I got back into my mediative yoga and I had more fun. I prioritised what I loved to do. I took the pressure off and surrendered.

As I felt myself moving back into alignment with who I was, my resistance dissipated and it felt amazing! A weight had been lifted off my shoulders. It was clear that a shift had begun to take place and beautiful things began to manifest.

I now acknowledge that expansion (however difficult it may feel at the time) is an incredible thing and in future will choose to find my sea legs and sharpen my teeth on it.

Have you ever been stuck in deep resistance and not been able to move? What lessons have you learned through contrasts of your own? We would love to hear about your expansion …

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  1. Dear Kim,
    First Congratulations on your courage and growth. Your blog shows tremendous self awareness and acceptance. Its not an easy journey towards self acceptance and self love but a wonderfully rewarding one.
    I too have struggled with growth and expansion – for me its that niggling feeling that you know that you can do more with your life – not for money or profit but to contribute and for expansion sake itself and just pure joy.
    I too have found that alignment is the best way to go – to surrender to who you really are and trusting that you are enough is the only way to make progress. Trying hard and pushing through is a bit like getting caught in quick sand – it only sucks you in deeper.
    I am enough – I am here and I’m present to all that life has to bring.

    • Dearest Maureen,
      Thank you so much for your sharing your thoughts. I am so thankful for the role you have played in helping me accept myself, love myself and become more self-aware. Forever grateful xxxx

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