5 tips on creating your best life.
Written by Tribe Leader, Liska Turner
Last week one of our tribe wrote a beautiful piece on how she has consciously crafted a new life for herself and how the Best Life Declaration was an integral part of the process.
I take my hat off to Kim and stand in awe of the changes she has implemented not only for herself but her family.
Truly this woman sparkles with life and generosity.
Change can be hard. Actually it is more overwhelming than hard and often it is how we manage that sense of overwhelm that moves us forward into a new life.
As human beings we are innately wired for certainty.
Our unconscious mind wants to keep us safe and the best way it knows how to do that is to keep us here where we are. So if you found yourself thinking “that’s great Kim but I can’t do that” read on.
Here are some tips to help you transition to living YOUR best life.
1. Small steps
Those trusty old quotes “Rome was not built in a day” and ‘How do you eat and elephant? In small bites” might be corny but they really do spell it out.
Sustainable change rests on the foundation of those small constant actions that build a firm concrete base upon which we build our best life.
2. Stop and reflect.
Make some time every week or two to consciously sit and reflect on your achievements. Review your ticked off “To Do” list. Or do some free writing about what you have done and how you are feeling.
This acknowledgement in a calm and contemplative frame will also communicate with your unconscious mind that you are safe and it does not need to protect you by sabotaging your efforts.
3. Let it sit lightly.
Sometimes the journey is as important as the destination. Where you end up might look completely different to where you envisaged. That’s because along the way you collect more information, meet new people and revisit your values that all influence how you draw the map.
4. Maybe you don’t need goals?
Danielle La Porte writes that we should set the compass of our lives by how we want to feel and not goals. She writes at http://www.daniellelaporte.com/thedesiremap/
“What if, first, we got clear on how we actually wanted to feel in our life, and then we laid out our intentions? What if your most desired feelings consciously informed how you plan your day, your year, your career, your holidays — your life?”
Chris Brogan takes a similar path. Each year he chooses three guiding words. He writes at http://chrisbrogan.com/my-3-words-2014/
Every year, I go through an exercise where we take three words and use them as the central focus of your goals and efforts for the year to come.
The idea is that the words you choose will go past being a simple goal and will become part of the way you identify yourself, and thus, a guiding light for your efforts.
Maybe you want to publish your first book in 2014. That might make one of your words “published.” But the question is, will that remind you DAILY to take an action? Maybe you make the word “300,” as in “write 300 words a day, every day, with no excuses.” See how that works?
Choose three words that reflect every aspect of your life, if you can. If you work too hard on work, your home life and/or your health might suffer. Can you be more holistic in your choices? Maybe the same “300″ that reminds you to write your words will elicit the “300″ movie, with Spartan warriors, more abs than you can count, and a strong reminder to hit the gym every day. See? Now you’re covering two bases with one word. Heck, maybe you can write your significant other and/or your kids 300 little notes throughout the year to show you love them. Wow! That means you’ve got three parts of your life covered!
And this is important: it has to mean something to you. Who cares if others don’t get it?
5. Engage your senses.
It’s no secret that the more senses we engage in an experience the more anchored it is in our being. Think about how we teach our kids to spell.
Visual– Look at the words
Auditory – Say the words aloud
Kinesthetic – write the words and exaggerate the shape of your mouth as you sound the word out
Build a playlist that gets you moving. Cut and paste to your hearts content and create a vision board. Use cooking, flowers or fragrances to activate your smell sense and eat the food you will be eating in your new life.
Go and have some fun.